I Thought It Was a Simple Family Dinner Until a $7,000 Bill Hit the Table and They Expected Me to Pay

uses the anxiety of being evaluated to make otherwise unreasonable requests seem like the only available response. You comply not because you want to but because complying seems like the cost of being accepted, and you have been made to want acceptance badly enough that the cost seems manageable in the moment. The skill involved is not cruelty exactly.continue reading …